From late last year till now I have accepted the uncertainties of my existence, I do have S.M.A.R.T goals to have tunnel vision. Growing up under a single dad, I've realized my dad had anxiety over my future which caused him to adopt training methods after I clocked 5 for me to grow up fast
I wanted to attend kiddies' parties, cinema, parks…even when he took me there, I wasn't allowed to explore. He preferred me hanging out with him and his friends. This I think was his MO to have me grow up fast
Did I? Not exactly. Instead, I grew up timid, anxious, and ignorant of the hardcore experience of surviving. You can say this is my first time of being a human being
I love him still as I could blame his actions on PTSD and environmental factors, yet the intention in his heart was “love”. Yep! We are all in this together iterating our decisions one phase at a time. More honest digest from you, loving your run
Excellent visual art you've picked to spice up this read. This is becoming your Trademark. Shoutout to the Visual Artist too.
I can’t word how much I appreciate this comment. Totally get how our parents can do their best to get a certain result and it ends up “damaging” us. I’m glad you’re now able to come out of your shell and be “human”. Yes, shout out to the artist. Thank you so much
I have always wanted to be an adult, and since primary 3, I have considered 25 the beginning of adulthood. Now, I am on the brink of that which I have longed for, and my feelings haven't changed.
I wanted to be an adult because I figured I would be great at it—I am emotionally intelligent, resourceful, optimistic on most days, and social. But being an "almost adult" has shown me that sometimes it is okay not to be great at things. Some situations are out of your control and out of your current life XP level, and if you could control everything every time, you would never have room to grow and actually be great.
So yes, you're right, Kufre. 2025 is going to be about learning and unlearning what it means to be a well-balanced adult, accepting and adapting to the fact that the unknown is the source of suspense that makes life worth living.
You are certainly right in the idea that the more people grow into adulthood the more they seek certainty. Certainty doesn't exist in the ways we'd wish they would and sometimes taking a chance and seeing it pay off can be one of the greatest feelings in this world. Thank you for such a wonderfully written piece.
From late last year till now I have accepted the uncertainties of my existence, I do have S.M.A.R.T goals to have tunnel vision. Growing up under a single dad, I've realized my dad had anxiety over my future which caused him to adopt training methods after I clocked 5 for me to grow up fast
I wanted to attend kiddies' parties, cinema, parks…even when he took me there, I wasn't allowed to explore. He preferred me hanging out with him and his friends. This I think was his MO to have me grow up fast
Did I? Not exactly. Instead, I grew up timid, anxious, and ignorant of the hardcore experience of surviving. You can say this is my first time of being a human being
I love him still as I could blame his actions on PTSD and environmental factors, yet the intention in his heart was “love”. Yep! We are all in this together iterating our decisions one phase at a time. More honest digest from you, loving your run
Excellent visual art you've picked to spice up this read. This is becoming your Trademark. Shoutout to the Visual Artist too.
I can’t word how much I appreciate this comment. Totally get how our parents can do their best to get a certain result and it ends up “damaging” us. I’m glad you’re now able to come out of your shell and be “human”. Yes, shout out to the artist. Thank you so much
I have always wanted to be an adult, and since primary 3, I have considered 25 the beginning of adulthood. Now, I am on the brink of that which I have longed for, and my feelings haven't changed.
I wanted to be an adult because I figured I would be great at it—I am emotionally intelligent, resourceful, optimistic on most days, and social. But being an "almost adult" has shown me that sometimes it is okay not to be great at things. Some situations are out of your control and out of your current life XP level, and if you could control everything every time, you would never have room to grow and actually be great.
So yes, you're right, Kufre. 2025 is going to be about learning and unlearning what it means to be a well-balanced adult, accepting and adapting to the fact that the unknown is the source of suspense that makes life worth living.
Adulthood: 5/10 (would recommend).
"5/10 (would recommend)" is fantastic. I love your contribution... Love it
You are certainly right in the idea that the more people grow into adulthood the more they seek certainty. Certainty doesn't exist in the ways we'd wish they would and sometimes taking a chance and seeing it pay off can be one of the greatest feelings in this world. Thank you for such a wonderfully written piece.
I'm so glad you enjoyed it because I really struggled with this one!